Relationships of all kinds can be stressful and difficult to maintain at times. You want to please and nourish your relationships with the people you love while meeting your own personal needs and goals. This task can be often challenged, and might need to be in order to face conflict. This can result in disagreements, constant arguing, and the loss of affection towards that person. This occur’s between families and friends, but can differ greatly when it comes to couples.
When to Pursue Help
Couples can be defined as two adults in an intimate relationship. This can include married couples, dating couples, or life-partners, regardless of gender. A relationship will always have its flaws, and tending to them nurtures the bond between you and your partner. Overtime, the hardships that come from the relationship can begin to outweigh the love felt for one-another. This is the point in which you must decide if the relationship is salvageable and that you genuinely want to make it work.
Approaches of Counseling
Couples therapy is all about seeking better communication, increasing trust, building appreciation, and identifying each other’s wants. Healing requires time and patience, along with various different approaches when it comes to counseling. This is dependent on the patients and the status of their weakened relationship. Approaches that can improve the relationship can include the “Gottman Method” and “Emotionally Focused” couples therapy. The Gottman Method is a strategy that is implemented during negative interactions between you and your partner. This problem-solving skill will help remove barriers that create feelings of stagnancy and will improve the understanding between spouses. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is used to healthily transform feelings of negativity and break the conflict patterns that occur within the relationship.
Conclusion
It helps to keep an open mind during the sessions and gives your partner a chance to open up in new ways. You might hear each other more clearly and find that the both of you have a shared goal for the relationship. Couples counseling provides you and your spouse with the opportunity to dissect the relationship and determine what needs to change. Pursuing couples counseling doesn’t rule your relationship incompatible, but means you find worth in rebuilding the bond between you and the person you love.
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